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How to help yourself

Published: 28 March 2018

Taking care of oneself during a crisis is important. Talk about what happened to someone you feel comfortable with. Keep in touch with your friends / family and accept your reactions as normal expressions in the event of an abnormal event. Sometimes friends / fellow students may find it difficult to contact for fear of what they do not know what to say

It is good if you contact your friends and other important people in your area and tell them how you want to get support. The social network is the most important support and provides the best help during the first time and not having to talk through the event / process it with a professional right after a traumatic event.

Modern research shows that such in-depth conversations with a focus on storytelling and feelings about what has occurred can actually disrupt the recovery and make it difficult for a person's inherent healing power to deal with crises. However, student health can be helpful if for various reasons you cannot seek support from your regular social network

Accept that you can't cope as much for a while, it's natural. Allow yourself to take it a little calmer. If you experience problems completing your studies during the first period, it is important to contact your teacher or your study guide as soon as possible to facilitate the study situation. Pressing yourself too much can negatively affect you in the long run.

Move. Take a walk with someone you like. The crisis involves a lot of stress hormones in the body that you need to get out of. Physical exercise is good as you sleep better and muscle tension disappears. You also have the opportunity to "relax" from your thoughts and sorrows.

Make sure to eat and drink. Many people lose their appetite, but it is important to gain nutrition. Soup, milk and fruit usually work.

Take care of yourself and treat yourself to things you like. For example, it can be swimming, bathing, getting a massage or listening to music.

Return to your usual routines. Return to the studies as soon as you can and try to get back to your normal routines. It creates security and prevents insulation.

In case of sleep problems, it may be good to use relaxation exercises before going to sleep. Be careful with soothing drugs and alcohol. Alcohol reinforces depression during grief and often produces negative experiences.

Some are helped by writing a diary. It can provide perspective on the experiences.

How can I work on acceptance of what I cannot change, what actually happened, how I feel and think about what has happened?

It can be through practicing seeing their thoughts and feelings as waves that come and go and which we do not need to remove.

Often when we only want to get rid of discomfort, we often create a new long-term discomfort by, for example, avoiding difficult situations because it is difficult in the short term. By using alcohol, drugs, tobacco as a way to avoid feeling thoughts and feelings.

Even when we exercise a lot to get rid of discomfort, eat too little or too much food, eat comfort candy. As we increasingly postpone the studies and instead sit more and more in front of the computer, television and games. When we spend much of the day pondering to get rid of the hard work.

One way to work with practical acceptance of what has happened is to practice conscious presence.

Give me peace of mind,
To accept what I cannot change,
Courage to change what I can,
And sense to realize the difference.